June 18, 2015

Actual News! Asia’s Adoption!

Filed under: Our Work — Adam Heine @ 3:40 PM

Some admin stuff first: obviously this blog is not being maintained much (as seen from the date of the previous post, approximately 1.6 years ago — the content of that post is pretty ironic). I will still update this blog when there is major news to report like this, but:

(1) Posts from this blog will not always go straight to Facebook or Twitter. If that’s how you follow this blog, might I suggest the subscription link or the RSS feed in the sidebar over there. Then you’ll know when there’s a post.

(2) Minor news tends to come over Facebook. Follow me there if you’re interested (but you’ll also need to be interested in quotes from our kids, updates about the game I’m working on, and whatever other nonsense I choose to share).

(3) We are still writing our newsletter every three months. There’s a link in the sidebar for that too.

To the post! As I said, it’s ironic that the last post, dated Oct 2013, describes hope about Asia’s adoption. Fast forward more than a year and a half, and we have finally met with the adoption board. Cindy, Asia, and I flew to Bangkok (Asia’s first ever plane ride, which she handled great — she also enjoyed the taxi and skytrain, until it got way past her bedtime and she started to melt). We hung out at the adoption center for a few hours, along with several other prospective adopters.

There were about twenty other couples there with their soon-to-be-adopted children. For most couples, they had just met their child a few days before meeting with the board. We had gotten special permission to have Asia in our home years ago (and thank goodness we did; I can’t imagine meeting Asia for the first time when she was seven!). Meeting with the board is mostly a formality, since they already have all of our information. They use the time to get to know us, to see how the child is taking to us, and to ask any questions they still have from the papers we’ve given them.

They expressed a minor concern about our finances (although I think this was due to a misunderstanding — thanks to Torment, we have enough to be comfortable — but anyway they said yes, so *shrug*), but otherwise they were pretty happy meeting us. Asia was a little shy at first, but once she got talking, she was quite happy to tell them ALL about the airplane and the taxi and the skytrain and the special lunch we were going to have after and the donut she had for breakfast (yeah, they made a comment about that too ;-). The board just smiled and laughed.

After talking with them for about twenty to thirty minutes, they said we were a good home for Asia — a very good home, one of the board members added, which made us feel good. I mean, we think we’re a good home for these kids, but it’s nice to know it looks that way from the outside too.

We still need to wait another six months before things are final. Standard procedure is a six-month home study after board approval. A social worker will come to visit our house every two months to see how Asia’s doing. For us, this is also just a formality, since Asia has been in our home for over four years now. But they gotta do what they gotta do.

Apparently, we were also suppose to have taken an adoptive parents’ course in Bangkok last April, but nobody told us about it. So we may have to wait for next year’s course before the adoption is really final (we’re not sure whether they’ll finalize it without the course or not yet). Though the board did say that, having so many kids already for so long, we probably already know everything the course could teach us. “Maybe you could speak!” one joked.

“Yeah,” I said, trying to hide my instinctive terror. “Maybe we could.”



  1. So happy to hear this. It was such s delight to visit almost daily with Asia while I was visiting The Abbotts earlier this year. To God be the Glory.

    Comment by Jean Reed — June 18, 2015 @ 10:10 PM

  2. I love it when you get through a situation like this and you can look back and see how God worked. God is good, God is faithful. Congratulations!!!!

    Comment by Walter heine — June 19, 2015 @ 12:42 AM

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